Children See, Children Do!

A brilliantly conceived, very powerful, poignant and thought provoking advertisement that a friend of mine sent me, about how children emulate adults. What is interesting is that children see and do what they often observe adults see and do. The issue is love and living love.

It's but also extremely frightening! I wish there'd been one or two more positive examples at the end to balance it up. Adults, like children, ALSO need to see lots of POSITIVE role models!

P.S
I really wonder, how much pshychological damage making this video would have been done to the kids who actually are a part of this video? Some of those scenes were very unpleasant and the children seemed too young to understand and yet old enough to maybe be affected by what they were pretending to take part in. I presume and hope the smoking child was a special effect?




Parents Let's Be Role Models For Our Children
Source: The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's (SAMHSA) National Mental Health Information Center, USA.
Here is what we can all do to help keep our children “violence-free”

Helping children learn more about themselves and their environment can be a key step in preventing school and youth violence. Parents want children to be safe, and children want to feel and be safe.

The following information could be both helpful to us as a parent and caregiver, as well as to our children. So take time to read and make time to share this with your children. Violence prevention begins with US. Remember to make time to listen, take time to talk...these can be precious moments.

Nurture

Show love and concern

• Every day, tell your child you love him/her.
• Show affection daily with a hug, a kiss, and/or a touch.
• Make time for special family fun activities.
• Meet your child’s friends to ensure he/she has positive influences.

Emotions

Understand - don’t take a stand

Children who don’t know how to control their anger are more likely to fight. Teach children how to calm down and talk over their problems. Tips for keeping cool and solving a problem:

• Keep in mind that anger is real, but it usually goes away.
• To calm down, think about or do things you enjoy.
• Once you have calmed down, think about the problem with a clear head.
• Take steps to solve the problem.

Communication

Is a two-way street

Children who have good communication with their parents are more likely to ask for their advice than turn to peers. When talking to your child, always remember to:

• Listen to your child.
• Find out what your child knows about violence and how to prevent it before you start talking.
• Let your child know he/she can always talk to you about anything.
  

RESPECT

Find out what it means to me

Many youth fight because they feel disregarded and, as a result, feel angry, humiliated, or embarrassed. To stay violence-free, respect means:

• Give respect so you may get respect.
• Stand up for yourself without putting yourself in danger.
• Discuss ways to solve problems without fighting.
• Respect is not gained by physical force or intimidation, but by the quality of your character.
• Fighting doesn’t solve a problem or get you respect.
  

Education

Everyone benefits

Take interest in your child’s education and development:

• Read to your child and encourage your child to read.
• Meet with your child’s teachers often and learn about your child’s progress.
• Review homework and tests.
• Set short- and long-term educational goals together and help your children reach their goals.
• Encourage your child to participate in an after-school program.
• Give your child household responsibilities/chores.
• Children who aren’t interested in school, who have friends who use alcohol/drugs, and who are not bound by rules are more likely to use alcohol/drugs.
• Let your child know you disapprove of drug use, including alcohol, and WHY.
  

Peaceful solutions ...another way

How to get your way without fighting:

• Talk clearly and calmly. State the problem and your desire to solve it without fighting.
• Humor—Make fun of the problem.
• Compromise—Both give up something and get something.
• Avoid/ignore—Sometimes it’s not worth the bother.
• Remember, it takes more guts and self-respect to walk away from a fight than to fight.
  

Bullying... NO WAY

Prevent your child from becoming a VICTIM:

• Instill self-confidence in your child.
• Help your child establish good social skills.
• Teach your child to speak out for him or herself.
• Teach your child to seek, if harassed, help from you and other caring adults.
• Try to meet with the bully to work things out. If the problem continues,call for a meeting of all those involved.
  

Prevent your child from becoming a BULLY:

• Present yourself as a model of non-violent behaviour.
• Clearly state that violence is not acceptable.
• Assist your child in finding non-violent strategies for anger management and conflict resolution.
• Seek help from mental health/school counselors to help stop bullying and aggressive behaviour.
  

SEEING VIOLENCE...Through a Child’s Eyes

Children who have seen violence are more likely to become involved in violence as victims or perpetrators. You can:

• Minimize your child’s exposure to violence.
• Tell your child that media violence is not real - it is glamorized, misleading, and fails to depict the real pain and suffering of the victims.
• Talk to your child about the violence he or she witnessed.
• If you see changes in your child, after they’ve witnessed a violent act, talk to a mental health professional.
• Some warning signs of emotional distress related to witnessing violence include sleeplessness, lack of appetite, lack of attention, anxiety, and frequent thoughts or flashbacks of the event.
  

Rules for quality time together

TEENS

• Don’t insult, shout, walk out or away...SHOW RESPECT.

PARENTS

• Don’t boss, preach, judge, or criticize...SHOW RESPECT.

FOR BOTH

• Spend more than 15 minutes each day together listening and talking.
• Don’t have outside interruptions.
• Don’t blame or try to defend anyone.
• DO MAKE one-on-one time SPECIAL.
  

Be a role model

• Warm family relationships protect children FROM violence and many other risky behaviours.
• Be aware that everything you do, your children see and do.
• Talk to them and, most important, listen to them.
• Spend valuable time with them that includes fun activities.
• Find out who their friends are and if they are a positive influence.
• Find out where they hang out and make sure it’s safe.
• Let them know you disapprove of fighting.
• Keep your children “drug and violence-free."